Post by lozgordon45 on Feb 19, 2012 7:15:26 GMT
Parents are the best resource a child with Autism or any other childhood disability can ever has. Both the child and parents understand each other well. I accept and understand that a parent may not have professional skills but if they commit and understand the root cause of the problem, can do wonders. In my practice, I have observed that where the parents put their efforts in home program, the child performs better. The parents who love and accept the child than pampering and over-protecting, those can take their children out of their incapabilities.
Below tips may be useful to parents to prepare them to go smooth on this long ride.
Laziness: I may not mean the loose and clumsy but it is referred to parents who takes it easy during early development of child. They are either misguided by myths or they do not want to accept the issues with the child. They found it tough to accept that the child has issues and needs early support and Early intervention. I understand that it’s tough to accept the child has long-term disability and in capabilities but, it is always suggested to gear up early so that the child can take benefits of early intervention. Get up parents and start early.
Anger: There are times when the child may or may not understand, especially during early age. They may not follow your words and commands. It would be tough for you to stop them and then “bang”. Many parents may give up. They may get angry or hit the child. But, the child does not even understand why is he beaten? He does not relate beating to an event. Move over, this way new avenues are opened up for child to learn hitting and screaming to get the things done. Be patient. It is tough but this the only way….
Structures and routines: I agree a parent may not be able to substitute the therapist experience and knowledge about the subject. But, a parent can take the child out of “too much ” therapy session and give time to the child of his own. Here, I don’t mean leaving the child to be destructive but giving him planned play opportunities. This not only increases the parent-child interaction but also the child may accept the parent as his peer. So, get up, come out in the fresh air, take a deep breath and enjoy the play. Take him out in the park and tell him what is the expected behavior and let him interact with the environment.
Over-protection: Many time the parent accept the disabilities of the child than the child himself. They try to be too protective and does not let the child to do his stuff of his own. This will stop the child to do his activities and learn from doing. This overall delays the progress in communication, learning, socialization and cognition. So, leave your guards and provide safe environment and opportunities to the child.
Skills: Do not get dishearten, gear up, as a parent there are many skills you can work on. Do not only depend on the professionals, learn and get empowered from them. Do not forget you are best resource for the child and professionals.
Below tips may be useful to parents to prepare them to go smooth on this long ride.
Laziness: I may not mean the loose and clumsy but it is referred to parents who takes it easy during early development of child. They are either misguided by myths or they do not want to accept the issues with the child. They found it tough to accept that the child has issues and needs early support and Early intervention. I understand that it’s tough to accept the child has long-term disability and in capabilities but, it is always suggested to gear up early so that the child can take benefits of early intervention. Get up parents and start early.
Anger: There are times when the child may or may not understand, especially during early age. They may not follow your words and commands. It would be tough for you to stop them and then “bang”. Many parents may give up. They may get angry or hit the child. But, the child does not even understand why is he beaten? He does not relate beating to an event. Move over, this way new avenues are opened up for child to learn hitting and screaming to get the things done. Be patient. It is tough but this the only way….
Structures and routines: I agree a parent may not be able to substitute the therapist experience and knowledge about the subject. But, a parent can take the child out of “too much ” therapy session and give time to the child of his own. Here, I don’t mean leaving the child to be destructive but giving him planned play opportunities. This not only increases the parent-child interaction but also the child may accept the parent as his peer. So, get up, come out in the fresh air, take a deep breath and enjoy the play. Take him out in the park and tell him what is the expected behavior and let him interact with the environment.
Over-protection: Many time the parent accept the disabilities of the child than the child himself. They try to be too protective and does not let the child to do his stuff of his own. This will stop the child to do his activities and learn from doing. This overall delays the progress in communication, learning, socialization and cognition. So, leave your guards and provide safe environment and opportunities to the child.
Skills: Do not get dishearten, gear up, as a parent there are many skills you can work on. Do not only depend on the professionals, learn and get empowered from them. Do not forget you are best resource for the child and professionals.